For those of you who know me a little, you will understand how much I despise lists. This frustrates and befuddles friends and loved ones, because it’s plain I could genuinely benefit from some rudimentary skills in this area.
Intellectually, I get it. I appreciate and admire all you note-jotters and proficient list-keepers who carry me along with your well-designed day and informed plans. You amaze me with all you can check off in a morning, and with such speed! It’s really not lost on me how much more productive I could be if you were me. I’d rule the world!
So, you will be stunned to know that recently, I started making a list.
“What my kids need to be able and willing to do before they leave the house.”
I’m not all that interested in what my kids need to know before they head out in the world. Rather, what do they need to be able and willing to do? For example, each of us knows we should pray. But do we know how to pray? Are we able and willing to do prayer? Have we taught them how?
In my years of coaching athletes, I know the hardest human hurdle to overcome is this chasm between knowing and doing. We know we should eat a little less and exercise a little more, but the doing is the doozie. Are we able and willing to do what we know we should do?
So, my growing list includes about two dozen (and counting) able to do’s that cover life’s practical, communal, physical, emotional and spiritual spheres.
I’ll share them with you a few at a time if you’re interested.
Here’s two for today.
1. Clean a bathroom from top to bottom.
- Especially when a lot of bottoms share your bathroom.
- Shake out the rugs, empty the trash, scrub the tub.
- Wipe down every porcelain inch of the pooper and then mop the floor.
- You’ll probably need to get on your hands and knees, dear one.
- Begin with sorting the reeking pile of summer sports gear in the corner.
- It doesn’t matter if it’s yours or your brother’s.
- The cycle is complete when nicely folded piles of lights and darks are carried back up the stairs and delivered to the bedrooms where they live.
- You’ll need a few hours, sweetheart.
*FYI. An equally important skill for all ages is to notice, appreciate, and say a heart-felt “thank you” when your bathroom has been cleaned, or laundry washed by another person. And then cover them with kisses.
Great joy to you all as you learn how do life together today.